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Meme with Meaning


"Imagine how many people we could touch if each of us here in Diaryland dedicated a single entry to get this message out to all our various and sundry readers." ~ nicim

read this if you browse for help * and this too * Resources (listed below)

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3244 (TTY)
Toll free, confidential, 24 hrs. Translators available.

State Hotlines * Help Guide - Domestic Violence * Oprah * Info

Rape Abuse and Incest National Network
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) Toll free, confidential, 24 hrs.

National Center for Victims of Crime and National Stalking Resource Center
1-800- FYI-CALL (1-800-394-2255) M-F, 8:30 am- 8:30 pm EST

Miles Foundation (for victims of Interpersonal Violence in the Military)
203-270-7861 Confidential, EST * milesfdn@aol.com

Darkness To Light Hotline (for victims of child sexual abuse)
1-866-FOR-LIGHT (367-5444) Toll free, confidential, 24 hours

Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4- A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) Toll free, confidential, 24 hrs.
NOTE: This hotline is for advice, information and to clarify options. It is not the same as reporting the abuse. You don't need to give your name or name of the abuser to talk.

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678)

Stop It Now! (child sexual abuse prevention and pedophile helpline)
1-888-PREVENT (888-773-8368) Toll free, confidential M-F 9am-5pm EST
If you or someone you know is possibly a pedophile call Stop It Now! to learn about help that is available.

National Center on Elder Abuse
Eldercare Locator at 1 (800) 677-1116 - this is not a helpline, but rather will direct you to the state hotline number.

Women's Law Initiative
State-by-state legal information on domestic violence and orders of protection

American Domestic Violence Crisis Line
For American women and children living abroad. International toll free domestic violence crisis line from 10:00pm to 6:00am, Pacific Standard Time, Monday night through Friday morning and Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9:00am to 1:00pm. (these are daytime hours for people living overseas) To call from overseas, contact your local AT&T operator and ask to be connected to 866-USWOMEN. From within the USA, dial 1-866-USWOMEN. If you have a safe email, email them anytime at crisis@866uswomen.org All communication is confidential.

International Directory of Resources
International inventory of hotlines, shelters, refuges, crisis centres and women's organizations, searchable by country, plus index of domestic violence resources in over 70 languages.

Dr. Deborah Serani
The blog of a psychologist who specializes in trauma and depression.

Dealing with the aggressive person

Information you can use

Abuse Issues


NOTE: if you care to put the links and information above on your own site, you can find the code here so you can cut, paste, and share... please do.



at first I was going to leave the previous entry up longer as I convinced myself it was a bold confessional biographical get-to-know-me kind of entry... but while it may have been cathartic and somewhat confessional, on another level it is pure self-indulgence to leave it up longer... and then, on the other hand, it is a thank you to you as well, so I hope you see that... but on the other hand (many handed thought, huh?), I should not beg for comments or your attention and sometimes that is what I think I am doing... anyway, thank you for being there and it's time to move on to a more important matter...

as many of you know, this entry inspired me (and many others as well) to leave the comments that turned into the list of links nicim and vickithecute and augustdreams dubbed Meme with Meaning (and hopefully many others will keep it going)... nicim made the excellent point in her entry that I quoted above... imagine if we all devoted an entry to getting this information out... cut and paste, use view source, or ask and the code will be sent to your email...

as she quoted me:

maybe this helps you understand... none of us want to give up on someone we love and walking away from an abuser is giving up on him, at least for that period of time... sometimes it takes almost as much strength to stay as it does to leave, but ultimately staying does more harm than good (even if we do not want to see that)... walking away is the tough love, it is taking away the alcoholic's bottle, it is telling the abuser that you will no longer enable his abuse and he must deal with his issues on his own... it is not called tough love because it is easy, after all...

and I quote her:

its important to understand that the broken hearts, damaged lives and pain caused from physical, mental, emotional, or psychological abuse happens to real people. People youve laughed with, cried with, and come to know so well, and whose lives you share every time you come here..

we hopefully strike a chord that resonates through the song that plays in every human heart and gives those who are hurting the courage to stand up and reach out for help... and those too proud to reach out, the strength to just walk away on their own... however it happens, whatever the reason, we hope that you take the step that only you can take... the step away from the abuse... the step away from the pain... the step toward your self-respect, your self-worth, your self preservation...

if you have kids, all the more reason to break the cycle... before they are too caught up in it... and if they are already caught up in it, all the more reason to act now... not tomorrow, not after you try to talk it out one more time... not after the swelling goes down... and surely not after the next time you or your kids become a punching bag...

care about yourself now... before it's too late...

State Coalition List

Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P. O. Box 4762
Montgomery, AL 36101
(334) 832-4842 Fax: (334) 832-4803
(800) 650-6522 Hotline
Website: www.acadv.org
Email: acadv@acadv.org

Alaska Network on Domestic and Sexual Violence
130 Seward Street, Room 209
Juneau, AK 99801
(907) 586-3650 Fax: (907) 463-4493
Website: www.andvsa.org

Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence
100 W. Camelback, #109
Phoenix, AZ 85013
(602) 279-2900 Fax: (602) 279-2980
(800) 782-6400 Nationwide
Website: www.azcadv.org
Email: acadv@azadv.org

Arkansas Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1401 W. Capitol Avenue, Suite 170
Little Rock, AR 72201
(501) 907-5612 Fax: (501) 907-5618
(800) 269-4668 Nationwide
Website: www.domesticpeace.com
Email: kbangert@domesticpeace.com

California Alliance Against Domestic Violence
926 J Street, Suite 210
Sacramento, CA 95814
(916) 444-7163 Fax: (916) 444-7165
(800) 524-4765 Nationwide
Website: www.caadv.org
Email: caadv@cwo.com

Statewide California Coalition for Battered Women
3711 Long Beach Blvd. #718
Long Beach, CA 90807
(562) 981-1202 Fax: (562) 981-3202
(888) 722-2952 Nationwide
Website: www.sccbw.org
Email: sccbw@sccbw.org

Colorado Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P. O. Box 18902
Denver, CO 80218
(303) 831-9632 Fax: (303) 832-7067
(888) 788-7091
Website: www.ccadv.org

Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence
90 Pitkin Street
East Hartford, CT 06108
(860) 282-7899 Fax: (860) 282-7892
(800) 281-1481 In State
(888) 774-2900 In State DV Hotline
Website: www.ctcadv.org
Email: info@ctcadv.org

Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
100 W. 10th Street, #703
Wilmington, DE 19801
(302) 658-2958 Fax: (302) 658-5049
(800) 701-0456 Statewide
Website: www.dcadv.org
Email: dcadv@dcadv.org

DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1718 P Street, Suite T-6
Washington, DC 20036
(202) 299-1181 Fax: (202) 299-1193
Website: www.dccadv.org
Email: help@dccadv.org

Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence
425 Office Plaza
Tallahassee, FL 32301
(850) 425-2749 Fax: (850) 425-3091
(850) 621-4202 TDD
(800) 500-1119 In State
Website: www.fcadv.org

Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
3420 Norman Berry Drive, #280
Atlanta, GA 30354
(404) 209-0280 Fax: (404) 766-3800
Website: www.gcadv.org

Hawaii State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
716 Umi Street, Suite 210
Honolulu, HI 96819-2337
(808) 832-9316 Fax: (808) 841-6028
Website: www.hscadv.org

Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence
815 Park Boulevard, #140
Boise, ID 83712
(208) 384-0419 Fax: (208) 331-0687
(888) 293-6118 Nationwide
Website: www.idvsa.org
Email: domvio@mindspring.com

Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence
801 S. 11th Street
Springfield, IL 62703
(217) 789-2830 Fax: (217) 789-1939
Website: www.ilcadv.org
Email: ilcadv@ilcadv.org

Indiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1915 W. 18th Street
Indianapolis, IN 46202
(317) 917-3685 Fax: (317) 917-3695
(800) 332-7385 In State
Website: www.violenceresource.org
Email: icadv@violenceresource.org

Iowa Coalition against Domestic Violence
515 28th Street, #104
Des Moines, IA 50312
(515) 244-8028 Fax: (515) 244-7417
(800) 942-0333 In State Hotline
Website: www.icadv.org

Kansas Coalition against Sexual and Domestic Violence
634 SW Harrison Street
Topeka, KS 66603
(785) 232-9784 Fax: (785) 266-1874
Website: www.kcsdv.org
Email: coalition@kcsdv.org

Kentucky Domestic Violence Association
P.O. Box 356
Frankfort, KY 40602
(502) 695-2444 Fax: (502) 695-2488
Website: www.kdva.org

Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 77308
Baton Rouge, LA 70879
(225) 752-1296 Fax: (225) 751-8927
Website: www.lcadv.org

Maine Coalition To End Domestic Violence
170 Park Street
Bangor, ME 04401
(207) 941-1194 Fax: (207) 941-2327
Website: www.mcedv.org
Email: info@mcedv.org

Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence
6911 Laurel-Bowie Road, #309
Bowie, MD 20715
(301) 352-4574 Fax: (301) 809-0422
(800) 634-3577 Nationwide
Website: www.mnadv.org
Email: mnadv@aol.com

Jane Doe, Inc./Massachusetts Coalition Against Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
14 Beacon Street, #507
Boston, MA 02108
(617) 248-0922 Fax: (617) 248-0902
TTY/TTD: (617) 263-2200
Website: www.janedoe.org
Email: info@janedoe.org

Michigan Coalition against Domestic & Sexual Violence
3893 Okemos Road, #B-2
Okemos, MI 48864
(517) 347-7000 Fax: (517) 347-1377
TTY: (517) 381-8470
Website: www.mcadsv.org
Email: general@mcadsv.org

Minnesota Coalition For Battered Women
1821 University Avenue West, #S-112
St. Paul, MN 55104
(651) 646-6177 Fax: (651) 646-1527
Crisis Line: (651) 646-0994
(800) 289-6177 Nationwide
Website: www.mcbw.org
Email: mcbw@mcbw.org

Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 4703
Jackson, MS 39296
(601) 981-9196 Fax: (601) 981-2501
Website: www.mcadv.org

Missouri Coalition Against Domestic Violence
718 East Capitol Avenue
Jefferson City, MO 65101
(573) 634-4161 Fax: (573) 636-3728
Website: www.mocadv.org
Email: mcadv@sockets.net

Montana Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 818
Helena, MT 59624
(406) 443-7794 Fax: (406) 443-7818
(888) 404-7794 Nationwide
Website: www.mcadsv.com
Email: mcadsv@mt.net

Nebraska Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Coalition
825 M Street, #404
Lincoln, NE 68508
(402) 476-6256 Fax: (402) 476-6806
(800) 876-6238 In State
Website: www.ndvsac.org
Email: info@ndvsac.org

Nevada Network Against Domestic Violence
100 West Grove Street, #315
Reno, NV 89509
(775) 828-1115 Fax: (775) 828-9911
(800) 500-1556 In State
Website: www.nnadv.org

New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 353
Concord, NH 03302
(603) 224-8893 Fax: (603) 228-6096
(866) 644-3574 In State
Website: www.nhcadsv.org

New Jersey Coalition for Battered Women
1670 Whitehorse Hamilton Square
Trenton, NJ 08690
(609) 584-8107 Fax: (609) 584-9750
(800) 572-7233 In State
Website: www.njcbw.org
Email: info@njcbw.org

New Mexico State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
200 Oak NE, #4
Albuquerque, NM 87106
(505) 246-9240 Fax: (505) 246-9434
(800) 773-3645 In State
Website: www.nmcadv.org

New York State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
350 New Scotland Avenue
Albany, NY 12054
(518) 482-5464 Fax: (518) 482-3807
(800) 942-6906 English-In State
(800) 942-6908 Spanish-In State
Website: www.nyscadv.org
Email: nyscadv@nyscadv.org

North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence
115 Market Street, #400
Durham, NC 27701
(919) 956-9124 Fax: (919) 682-1449
(888) 232-9124 Nation wide
Website: www.nccadv.org

North Dakota Council on Abused Womens Services
418 E. Rosser Avenue, #320
Bismark, ND 58501
(701) 255-6240 Fax: (701) 255-1904
(888) 255-6240 Nationwide
Website: www.ndcaws.org
Email: ndcaws@ndcaws.org

Action Ohio Coalition For Battered Women
P.O. Box 15673
Columbus, OH 43215
(614) 221-1255 Fax: (614) 221-6357
(888) 622-9315 In State
Website: www.actionohio.org
Email: actionoh@ee.net

Ohio Domestic Violence Network
4807 Evanswood Drive, #201
Columbus, OH 43229
(614) 781-9651 Fax: (614) 781-9652
(800) 934-9840
Website: www.odvn.org
Email: info@odvn.org

Oklahoma Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
3815 N. Sante Fe Ave., Suite 124
Oklahoma City, OK 73118
(405)524-0700 Fax: (405) 524-0711
Website: www.ocadvsa.org

Oregon Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
115 Mission Street SE, #100
Salem, OR 97302
(503) 365-9644 Fax: (503) 566-7870
Website: www.ocadsv.com

Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence
6400 Flank Drive, #1300
Harrisburg, PA 17112
(717) 545-6400 Fax: (717) 545-9456
(800) 932-4632 Nationwide
Website: www.pcadv.org

The Office of Women Advocates
Box 11382
Fernandez Juancus Station
Santurce, PR 00910
(787) 721-7676 Fax: (787) 725-9248

Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence
422 Post Road, #202
Warwick, RI 02888
(401) 467-9940 Fax: (401) 467-9943
(800) 494-8100 In State
Website: www.ricadv.org
Email: ricadv@ricadv.org

South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 7776
Columbia, SC 29202
(803) 256-2900 Fax: (803) 256-1030
(800) 260-9293 Nationwide
Website: www.sccadvasa.org

South Dakota Coalition Against Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 141
Pierre, SD 57501
(605) 945-0869 Fax: (605) 945-0870
(800) 572-9196 Nationwide
Website: www.southdakotacoalition.org
Email: sdcadvsa@rapidnet.com

Tennessee Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 120972
Nashville, TN 37212
(615) 386-9406 Fax: (615) 383-2967
(800) 289-9018 In State
Website: www.tcadsv.org
Email: tcadsv@tcadsv.org

Texas Council On Family Violence
P.O. Box 161810
Austin, TX 78716
(512) 794-1133 Fax: (512) 794-1199
(800) 525-1978 In State
Website: www.tcfv.org

Womens Coalition of St. Croix
Box 2734
Christiansted
St. Croix, VI 00822
(340) 773-9272 Fax: (340) 773-9062
Website: www.wcstx.com
Email: wcscstx@attglobal.net

Utah Domestic Violence Council
320 W. 200 South, #270-B
Salt Lake City, UT 84101
(801) 521-5544 Fax: (801) 521-5548
Website: www.udvac.org

Vermont Network Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 405
Montpelier, VT 05601
(802) 223-1302 Fax: (802) 223-6943
Website: www.vtnetwork.org
Email: vtnetwork@vtnetwork.org

Virginians Against Domestic Violence
2850 Sandy Bay Road, #101
Williamsburg, VA 23185
(757) 221-0990 Fax: (757) 229-1553
(800) 838-8238 Nationwide
Website: www.vadv.org
Email: vadv@tni.net

Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
101 N. Capitol Way, #302
Olympia, WA 98501
(360) 586-1022 Fax: (360) 586-1024

1402 3rd Avenue, #406
Seattle, WA 98101
(206) 389-2515 Fax. (206) 389-2520
(800) 886-2880 In State
Website: www.wscadv.org
Email: wscadv@wscadv.org

West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
4710 Chimney Drive, #A
Charleston, WV 25302
(304) 965-3552 Fax: (304) 965-3572
Website: www.wvcadv.org

Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence
307 S. Paterson Street, #1
Madison, WI 53703
(608) 255-0539 Fax: (608) 255-3560
Website: www.wcadv.org
Email: wcadv@wcadv.org

Wyoming Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 236
409 South Fourth Street
Laramie, WY 82073
(307) 755-5481 Fax: (307) 755-5482
(800) 990-3877 Nationwide
Website: www.wyomingdvsa.org
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